I thought I would send this out today because I had an amazingly honest comment from a person who was struggling a bit (lost their job, this put pressure on the relationships at home and so on) and I think it is really, really important to help out ANYONE who is getting a bit of a kick in the face from life.

So, if you have seen me live, you will know that I have come as crushingly close to giving up as you can possible get (including a short stint in hospital because I drove myself into the ground). I am intimately familiar with failure, I know how he looks, smells and feels and at first it isn’t pretty and here’s why…

Failure is basically those inner voices that know your deepest held fears. Those voices take great delight in beating the crap out of you, telling you you’re worthless, useless and an embarrassment.

They are in fact….. Completely FABRICATED by you but at the time they can be massively destructive.

Now the fact that they are a complete, self-made fabrication should make you smile

Once you realise that failure is simply your own demons giving you a kick, you are half way to getting past this negative stuff.

Here’s the truth.

If you’ve signed up for success in your business (online or offline) failure comes with the territory. Failure is inevitable and is the biggest teacher you will have in your life. Failure is something you need to become familiar with so that you learn your lessons from him, not avoid the lessons and keep failing over and over again.

If you lost your job this is not a FAILURE this is a circumstance that is testing you. You then decide whether to see this as a failure or an opportunity to get off your arse and get another job or (even better) create your own job and I say that with every ounce of compassion I have. Believe it or not you do have a choice in how you react and failure to me is watching some one take zero action. That is failure, that is choosing to give up and I know that you reading this are here because you want more from your life.

What I have learned over the last nearly three years online is that I failed pretty much regularly for the first eight months. If I had believed the get rich quick B.S. online, I would have quit. Instead I kept going and kept learning.

So, your mind is an extraordinary tool. It has the power to be incredibly creative or incredibly destructive and you (believe it or not) have all the power to decide what road you will walk down when you are being tested. So here’s a question I ask myself every time the brown stuff hits the fan…

“What’s the lesson in this for me? What do I need to learn?”

I want you to put your hand up right now and repeat after me “I am a Solutions Person not a Problem Person.”… cool!

Using these strategies will not be easy at first (I know this from personal experience) because you have some ingrained failure response habits that you need to get rid of. But remember there is a profound difference between a ‘solutions’ thinker when challenges arise and a ‘problem’ thinker. The difference is simply that a solutions thinker moves forward, creates alternatives, seeks other ways and opportunities. A problem thinker stops dead…

So there you go, we enter this world with no guarantees except it will be a bumpy ride. Personally I am started to learn to love the rollercoaster much more than the boring Ferris wheel. It stretches you more, it asks of you more but it gives you the capacity to then live more, build more, create more success and achieve all your dreams and goals (financial, personal and family).

Keep going, don’t give up and catch up with you all again soon.

Al